So I wanted to start off recognizing the inspiration for this post… I got started thinking about it when Fairytale by Sara Bareilles came on my itunes, it is a fabulous song, so if you don’t know it download it now. Here is the music video for all of those curious,  

Anywho, the whole thing got me started about what really is a fairytale and what really is a princess in this strange bizarre world that we live in…

So I decided to take a shot at defining what it might mean these days.

So here is our current vision of a classic fairytale… Once upon a time there was a princess that lived in a magical land, she had an evil witch/step mother that wanted to destroy her because she was so beautiful… But true love overcame the evil and the prince and princess lived happily ever after, the end.

Now this is very highly unrealistic as we all know, so there must be a more applicable way these days…

So once upon a time there was a girl from the suburbs, she was beautiful but no one ever really noticed her, one day something changed and she walked down the street and everyone noticed her.. The true love she had secretly been pining for noticed her.. they dated, went to college, got their law degrees, had a beautiful marriage 3 kids, 2 boys that played varsity football and a girl that did varsity cheer… they lived happily ever after in their cape cod style house complete with white picket fence and a yellow lab named sandy…

Now if that doesn’t make me want to barf idk what does.

So what should our fairytales be? Well I guess a fairytale is a dream of how your life would be if everything worked out perfectly, it’s only a tale so it isn’t necessarily your realistic hopes, but more of the story you make up for yourself as you fall asleep.

And what is up with all the prince and princesses, apparently you can’t have a happy ending unless you marry a prince? So much for independence…

Idk I guess lately I have been noticing myself and a lot of other girls I know do things that aren’t that attractive, and I think we need to pull ourselves back to earth so we can be the ladies that our parents raised us to be.

I think anyone can be a princess, a princess should love her people (friends, family, enemies, strangers), lead with poise, never forget her manners, love fiercely and protect fiercely, never forget where she has come from and somewhat pay attention to where she is going, live freely, care for everyone even those we feel may not deserve it, always remember that the only road a princess takes is the high road, humility is a virtue to live by, remember that it is okay to be afraid but not okay to not conquer your fears, a princess is always allowed to make mistakes but never not allowed to not take accountability for her actions, a princes is only as beautiful on the outside as she is on the inside.

And yes, there you have it, my personal definition for a princess.

Now as for the fairytale thing, I hope that your fairytale is something that makes you very happy, like being the owner of a purse botique in Paris and spending your days drinking champagne and enjoying your life, or owning a candy factory and eating all teh candy you want forever. I hope your fairytale entails your tales of success doing anything you have ever dreamed of whether it is realistic or not. I hope in your fairytale when you encounter adversity or an obstacle that you don’t immediately hope that some handsome prince will save you because there is no better reward than saving yourself. I think the best part of any fairytale that needs to be consistent is the ending, happily ever after, because no matter what happens in our lives or how they turn out we should always count on the ending being a happy one. So even on those days when you feel like your little world is ending, you can hold hope in your happy ending, whatever that may be…

I can tell you now that our lives will never be perfect, you can have the white picket fence and a vegetable garden, but your yellow lab is probably going to scratch off the paint and ruin the garden… I hope instead of freaking out, you just smile and laugh it off, because it’s only life and even in its imperfections you can still find perfection. So scold good old sandy but life will go on, and instead of having fresh tomatoes you will have a funny story to tell, and stories last much longer than tomatoes do…

So as Sara herself says, we don’t want the next best thing, because that is no way to live life. Instead of waiting for your fairytale, live your life, don’t forget to dream, but don’t get too caught up in your dreams because yocomu may lose yourself. Live your perfectly imperfect life, without too many expectations but only the highest standards for yourself, but when there es a time you will have to compromise but only as much as you need to, in other words, never settle for less than you deserve.

If I can ask you to remember anything from this long drawn out post, I ask you to remember, that a princess is only as beautiful on the outside as she is on the inside, so treat your friends and enemies alike with patience and care, because your life will be happier if you just let everything and everyone else go. A light heart is a happy heart that is no longer weighed down with hate and ill feelings.

Well my princesses/princes/minions

I hope you can take these thoughts to heart and live a life of fab and glam all while being a true princess.

I love you but i’m not in love with you.

xoxo Clairistotle