Okay, so I am not sure if any of you have experienced anything similar to what I am about to talk about but I am guessing you all have. I am 21 going on 22, graduated high school in 2009, and I am starting to see people my age from high school getting engaged and even married. My friends and roomies also noticed this phenomenon and it all just got me thinking… Why?
Even if you did really want to be with someone for the rest of your life, WHAT IS THE RUSH?! Wouldn’t you want to wait till you can afford to have a really nice wedding and celebrate your matrimony in fabulous style? I mean honestly I want to wait until at least 3 of my friends have weddings so I can make sure mine is better than all of theirs. The whole thing is just beyond me I guess… As a single female I have been noticing the relationshits, I mean ships, of the adults around me and my friends as well, and the whole thing just seems to suck. Like yeah there are good times I am sure, but I notice a lot of poopy times and right now why commit to be poopy right now?
So Amanda is sitting here and I asked her what she thought about people getting married/engaged in their early 20’s like before 23. “I just think they are foolish, your twenties are for one night stands, mistakes, getting your heart broken over and over again, and spending your nights eating ice cream and over analyzing boys, not planning what kind of f*cking, what are those things called table flowers or something” (Amanda is also a future cat lady but I see where she is coming from)
Now I asked Megan the same question “Their retarded, so I don’t agree”
All in all I am beginning to lose hope in love, the whole thing just seems like a gigantic waste of time. How many times do I have to shave my legs only to find people that are not worthy of my wonderful heart! You have these movies like The Notebook (every movie made after a Nicholas Sparks novel), Titanic, A walk to remember etc. And they tell us all this stuff like we should be willing to die for each other, or if your a bird i’m a bird etc. We have literally been conditioned that the only thing that will complete us is love, and I just don’t think that finding a partner in life is that big of an accomplishment. I guess now that I am single my new plan will be to live my life for me and maybe find a partner on the way and if I do find a partner I am not going to rush it, my wedding will be couture or bust.
So what is it that really drives our undying need for affection, attention, and a soul mate? Darwin would tell us that it is our instinctual need to find a mate, well great, but now it has turned into this whole three ring circus of scrutinizing text messages, stalking out girls/boys at the bar, tears, ben and jerry’s, fights, laughter, dates, one night stands, does he let me watch what I want to watch on tv?, do I like his friends?, is his mom a giant turd?, does he have baggage? etc. And yes, this isn’t just a female issue, the same can be said for my man readers as well, the whole thing is just insane! and at 21 I am not willing to deal with it, nor do I see why anyone would really want to that much! There is a whole world to explore and that isn’t so easy to do with the whole ball and chain attachment.
So in the end, to each their own, I don’t think I will ever get it, but perhaps that is the point.
All is fair in love and war!
I love you but I am not in love with you.